Tuesday, December 6, 2011

#reverbBroads11 - Day 6: My top 10 Nevers

I asked a lot of people what was one thing they'd never do and got a lot of answers of things I've already done. Some of those include eating odd meats (I've eaten alligator,) learning how to fly an airplane (I will do this before I turn 60,) move in with someone without a commitment/wedding ring (I live with Brandon, my partner,) and the list continues. Needless to say, this was kind of difficult for me, as I don't want to limit myself on life. I'm aware that this list is random, but challenge yourself to have a non-random list of things you have sworn to never do, or that you know you will never do.

- Post sonograms of my child anywhere (my office, Facebook, etc.) If I ever have children, that will be shared with those very close to me, and no one else.

- Have two separate Twitter or Facebook accounts. As an educator, I think it's really important to practice good social media behavior, so I will never (again) do that.

- Work with children under the age of 17. I have spent my vacation working with my Mother, Father and Sister who run a musical theater program for children (sometimes adults, too.) My dad also works in a middle school, and as I write this, I'm sitting in his auditorium going crazy. I have such respect for educators that can work with this age group, as I know how challenging it is.

- I will never win a track competition, or place first in my age group in any running event. I've tried, and I'm okay with this. This doesn't mean that I won't participate, and I'll probably (at some point) enjoy it.

- I will never perform on a Broadway stage. Many people can (should?) say this, but for me, I'm pretty confident that my sister will, which is an awesome accomplishment for her, and gives me the ease to say that I won't.

- I will never live on the same property as my parents, or my partners parents. This may seem like a harsh statement, but I want to preserve the relationship between the grand parents and the grand children. I lived on the same property as my grandmother and it really strained the relationship. I won't change much about my parenting style based on my parents, but I will work hard to keep that a loving, caring relationship.

- I will never move back in with my parents. As I watch friends struggle, either getting divorced, losing a job, or not being able to find a job out of college, I see them move back in with their parents. If everything in my life changed tomorrow, I would just find other options. My parents are still raising my brother (16) and my sister (19), so that wouldn't be a reasonable option for me.

- I will never not have a Christmas tree. I could have the tiniest apartment ever, but I would always find room for a regular-sized tree. For as long as I can remember, Christmas has been a huge part of my life and I cannot imagine living through November and December without having holiday decorations.

- I will never stop my fight against inclusive language. I think its really important to use inclusive phrases (elimination of you guys, that's gay, etc.) and I really see the value in those conversations, with everyone from my family members to the students and colleagues I work with.

- I will never own a deep fryer. In college, my friends had them and used them constantly. Its not healthy and in my hopes to live a healthy lifestyle, I have banned this item from my kitchen (and hopefully from the kitchens of those around me.)

If you haven't heard, I'm participating in #ReverbBroads11 this month. Today's prompt: List 10 things you would never do.

2 comments:

Unknown said...

I find it surprising that you lump "you guys" in with "that's gay" since one is an insult and the other is just another way of saying "y'all."

Alex Andrea said...

I understand what you mean, however, I see both as an insult and something we need to work on. I'm a woman, and I cringe everytime I get lumped into "you guys," as I think it's not very inclusive of everyone.

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#reverbBroads11 - Day 6: My top 10 Nevers

| Tuesday, December 6, 2011
I asked a lot of people what was one thing they'd never do and got a lot of answers of things I've already done. Some of those include eating odd meats (I've eaten alligator,) learning how to fly an airplane (I will do this before I turn 60,) move in with someone without a commitment/wedding ring (I live with Brandon, my partner,) and the list continues. Needless to say, this was kind of difficult for me, as I don't want to limit myself on life. I'm aware that this list is random, but challenge yourself to have a non-random list of things you have sworn to never do, or that you know you will never do.

- Post sonograms of my child anywhere (my office, Facebook, etc.) If I ever have children, that will be shared with those very close to me, and no one else.

- Have two separate Twitter or Facebook accounts. As an educator, I think it's really important to practice good social media behavior, so I will never (again) do that.

- Work with children under the age of 17. I have spent my vacation working with my Mother, Father and Sister who run a musical theater program for children (sometimes adults, too.) My dad also works in a middle school, and as I write this, I'm sitting in his auditorium going crazy. I have such respect for educators that can work with this age group, as I know how challenging it is.

- I will never win a track competition, or place first in my age group in any running event. I've tried, and I'm okay with this. This doesn't mean that I won't participate, and I'll probably (at some point) enjoy it.

- I will never perform on a Broadway stage. Many people can (should?) say this, but for me, I'm pretty confident that my sister will, which is an awesome accomplishment for her, and gives me the ease to say that I won't.

- I will never live on the same property as my parents, or my partners parents. This may seem like a harsh statement, but I want to preserve the relationship between the grand parents and the grand children. I lived on the same property as my grandmother and it really strained the relationship. I won't change much about my parenting style based on my parents, but I will work hard to keep that a loving, caring relationship.

- I will never move back in with my parents. As I watch friends struggle, either getting divorced, losing a job, or not being able to find a job out of college, I see them move back in with their parents. If everything in my life changed tomorrow, I would just find other options. My parents are still raising my brother (16) and my sister (19), so that wouldn't be a reasonable option for me.

- I will never not have a Christmas tree. I could have the tiniest apartment ever, but I would always find room for a regular-sized tree. For as long as I can remember, Christmas has been a huge part of my life and I cannot imagine living through November and December without having holiday decorations.

- I will never stop my fight against inclusive language. I think its really important to use inclusive phrases (elimination of you guys, that's gay, etc.) and I really see the value in those conversations, with everyone from my family members to the students and colleagues I work with.

- I will never own a deep fryer. In college, my friends had them and used them constantly. Its not healthy and in my hopes to live a healthy lifestyle, I have banned this item from my kitchen (and hopefully from the kitchens of those around me.)

If you haven't heard, I'm participating in #ReverbBroads11 this month. Today's prompt: List 10 things you would never do.

2 comments:

{ Unknown } at: December 7, 2011 at 11:17 PM said...

I find it surprising that you lump "you guys" in with "that's gay" since one is an insult and the other is just another way of saying "y'all."

{ Alex Andrea } at: December 8, 2011 at 7:29 AM said...

I understand what you mean, however, I see both as an insult and something we need to work on. I'm a woman, and I cringe everytime I get lumped into "you guys," as I think it's not very inclusive of everyone.

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